D/s? D/s!

When I started tagging posts as “D/s” I didn’t realize that it has a different meaning to some people. Apologies if you’ve stumbled across this blog while searching for the latest and greatest in the world of video games. Ooops.

You Won’t Find It Here

I love to look at the list of search terms that brought people to my blog…

all purpose summer skirt  Sorry, I probably can’t help you. (But I noticed you looked twice just to make sure.)

largest Lips of the vulva  Can’t say I’ve written about those (and make no claim to having them), but I’m certain you’ll find a website out there that has written about it!

hot things  I can’t imagine you were actually looking for a submissive dating blog with this search, but that’s what you found. (And you must have liked it, since you looked at a couple pages.)

she is a submissive masturbator  I don’t really think of the act of masturbating as being particularly dominant or submissive, but the fantasies I have while masturabating certainly are submissive!

im submissive, can I ever be dominant  Embrace your submissive side! You’ll find my stories of exploring my dominant side, but it only took a few moments of exploration to discover that it wasn’t for me.

women who love smelly cocks  That’s definitely not a turn-on. (But I noticed you stuck around to look a little!)

submissive date  Now that’s one I can relate to!

If You Show Mine, Then I’ll Show Yours

I know I have readers…my site stats say it’s so. If you enjoy this blog and have one of your own, please link to me. And if you’re linking to me, please drop me a note or leave a comment so I can link to you, too. But I’d also love to hear from the readers who don’t blog. Please feel free to leave me a comment and let me know you’re out there.

Thanks!

J

RSS? RSS!

Warning: Geeky post ahead.  

At times, I’m what you’d call a late adopter. I hear about great technology, but it takes me forever to get around to trying it myself. Case in point: RSS feeds. I’d heard about them, but never got around to reading my favorite blogs that way. Every day, I’d page though my favorite blog bookmarks, checking each site to see if anything new had been posted. When a blog wasn’t updated frequently, I stop checking it regularly. (But only after checking it daily for a month or more, only to be disappointed because there were never any updated.) Muphy’s Law, 2007 corrallary: As soon as you stop checking a blog regularly, the blogger starts updating said blog.

What Do You Recommend?

I’ve linked to a number of blogs that I like, but I’m curious to know what other people are reading. Do you have a blog? What are your must-read blogs that aren’t on my list? (In addition to the kinky blogs, I like human interest blogs, too. I read sites like Dooce and Dan Renzi and Consumerist, too.) I’m an avid reader, so I’m always looking for new suggestions. Please leave your recommendations in the comments section, or send me a note at submissiveinthecity <<at>> gmail dot com.

I’ve Been Reading…

Since I started blogging, I’ve become a fan of more kinky blogs.

I love caitlin smiles because it’s a well-rounded blog written by the female submissive half of a kinky couple. Not only does she post about the pains and pleasures of their relationship, she talks about their families, health, pets and daily life. Since I’m ultimately seeking a relationship with a dominant guy, I always enjoy reading about the lives of other couples because it reminds me of what I’m looking for. (Submissive Reflections is another lifestyle blog written by a female submissive, and for a while now I’ve enjoyed her writing and their relationship.) In case you’re sensing a theme here, danae whispering is also written by the female submissive half of a kinky couple. Danae’s blog focuses less on the kink and more on the day-to-day joys and challenges of being in a relationship and living life through a BDSM prism. I always feel good after reading it because she always seems to look at the positive side of life, even when dealing with problems thrown her way.

There’s only one way to describe One Life, Take Two: HOT! It’s written by Jefferson, a bi-sexual, dominant guy who’s recently divorced, and who makes no apologies for the fact that he’s catching up on all of the sex he missed while married. (He recently mentioned that in 15 years of marriage, he didn’t get a single blow job.) Now he’s writing about all-male orgies, male & female orgies, online sex, BDSM sex camp, his male lovers, his female lovers. You name it, he’s done it. He’s a great writer, and knows how to craft a story.

One of my favorite blogs, Life As His, disappeared a month or two ago. This one was written by Annissa, who was a wife, mom, slave to her husband, domme to their “girl” and part of a poly-clan. In the last couple weeks Annissa posted a brief message on her LiveJournal Starting Over saying that she was no longer “his” (her husband and master, I presume) and that she’d post more later. That message has now disappeared, and her blog is blank again. Knowing the devastation I feel when a year or two-year relationship comes to an end, I can only start to imagine what she’s feeling. I hope she’ll start posting again, because I know it can be a good outlet for the grief. But it’s impossible to guess what her circumstances are, and it’s possible she’s not posting for privacy and security reasons. I hope she finds comfort.

As a new blogger, I know how great it is to get comments. But I myself am not good at commenting. Some of it is an intimidation thing…if you read the comments of popular blogs, you see the names of the same commenters over and over again. By commenting, I always feel as if it’s my first day at a new school and I’m trying to make friends. I know that’s not really the case, but it’s still how I feel. It can feel intimidating! So if the owners of any of these blogs come across this post, they may be surprised to find that I count myself among their fans, since they may not have seen my name on their comments list. But I hope they understand that I’m probably just one of the silent dozens/hundreds/thousands who also read without commenting regularly. I promise I’ll try to do better on that front!